I’ve been away from my lovely blog for a good couple of weeks now and I’m missing it terribly! Don’t want to make excuses but I’ve just had loads going on and I definitely needed to prioritise getting my personal life sorted. That being said I thought with all the changes going on in my life, this kind of post was completely in order. I know it helps me to learn from other peoples experiences, and if this helps even one person then I’ve done a good job. So here are my tips on how to deal with change.
|HOW TO DEAL WITH CHANGE…
1. Lists! Lists help me solve everything. If you’re feeling down about anything, make a list of things you’re grateful for, no matter how big (your family) or small (your glasses), how life-changing (running water) or frivolous (malteaser chocolate bars (nom)). This will just remind you of all the things you have going for you even when you feel like you have nothing. If it’s the thought of things changing that is affecting you then make a list of all the positive things that could come out of that change. You might have to search for them, you might need a friend or family member to help you see those things, but they will be there.
2. Talk to someone. Whether it be a friend or family member just talking to someone about how you’re feeling is going to help. Now I know lots of us get really embarrassed about our emotions and it can be hard to tell people that you’re not okay. But I guarantee the people who care about you would rather have you bending their ear or crying on their shoulder than suffering in silence. If you don’t want to talk to someone then write about it. Getting your feelings down on paper can help you evaluate them and just relieve some of the tension building up in your head.
3. Take good advice. Lots of the time when you’re down on yourself or things are changing and they aren’t going exactly as planned, it’s easy to become stubborn and not really listen to those around you even if you know that they’re right. You need to consider what other people are telling you and take their advice on board. Not only that but when people are showing you that things can be okay you need to believe them, because that’s the only way this can get better.
4. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. If changes are ahead of you it’s important to know what you might be up against. If you decide upon the worst thing that can happen and it does, then that’s a relief because things can only look up from there on in. If you’re prepared for it, it’ll hurt less and you can plan how you’ll come out the other side.
5. Don’t be inhibited by fear. Sometimes the fear of change can inhibit you from making necessary changes in your life. While it’s hard to actively seek change, you have to consider the long term as well as the short term when you’re making important decisions. We all have to make hard choices and what’s best for the long term may not always feel best right now but we only get one life so sometimes we need to be fearless.
6. Believe in yourself and tell yourself things will be okay. Sure you might not be okay right now, things might still be a bit rubbish in a few weeks or months, but I promise that the only way things will get better is if you believe it. Look at your list, remember what your friends have told you and know that in time things will look up. And enjoy little things in the meantime; nice dinners, walks in the fresh air or a snuggle on the sofa.
7. Stay positive. This is the toughest one of all. Everyone will have moments or even days when they feel like the whole world is on top of them but you have to keep trying and believing in better. Remember times when you’ve felt like this before, see how you resolved them and moved on. Remember that there’s always someone worse off than you. See change as a new adventure, don’t forget the people you care about and make the most of it!
Wishing you all a wonderful week, let me know if you have any more tips for dealing with change.